How to Build Relationships With Followers on Social Media

Stop shouting into the void on social media. This comprehensive guide reveals how to overcome common engagement challenges and build authentic relationships with your followers across every major platform.

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Grant McConnaughey
Founder of Postpone

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Ever notice how some social media content creators seem to have an army of superfans who hang on their every word, eagerly share their work, and jump at the chance to support their latest project? 

Here’s the catch: simply posting pretty pictures or witty captions isn’t enough to unlock this level of follower engagement. When it comes to social media, the “build it, and they will come” mentality is more of a myth. 

Read on as we explore the psychology behind building relationships with followers on social media — complete with actionable tactics to move past surface-level interactions and cultivate a thriving community. 

Why Connecting With Followers Isn’t Always Easy

Let's be honest: building genuine relationships on social media can feel like trying to have a heart-to-heart in a crowded, noisy room. 

Here are common reasons why connecting with your audience is so tricky:

  • You don’t fully understand the algorithm: Social media algorithms are like fickle gatekeepers, deciding who sees your content and when. All too often, it can feel like you're shouting into the void, unsure if your message is actually reaching the people who matter most.
  • You’re strapped for time: As a solo content creator, you're wearing all the hats: researching, brainstorming, producing content, marketing — the list is endless. You know you should be responding to comments and fostering conversations, but who has the time?
  • You’re worried about trolls: Unfortunately, not everyone on social media is here to spread positivity. Dealing with negativity, spam, and trolls can drain your energy and make you hesitant to engage openly. It can be discouraging to put yourself out there, only to be met with negativity.
  • You’re falling into the comparison trap: It's easy to get caught up in comparing yourself to other content creators with seemingly effortless engagement and massive followings. This can lead to self-doubt and discourage you from connecting authentically. 

All of these feelings are totally normal. But more importantly, while these challenges are real, they're not insurmountable. 

Building Relationships with Followers: 6 Tips

Tip 1: Centralize your communication in a unified inbox

Juggling comments and messages across multiple platforms can feel like a chaotic game of whack-a-mole. You might miss comments, forget to reply to DMs, and let valuable interactions slip through the cracks. But what if you could manage all your conversations in one place?

Here’s where Postpone comes in handy. Postpone (disclaimer: this is my tool) is an all-in-one social media scheduling tool — think: scheduling posts across platforms, organizing your content library, and diving deep into post analytics, all in one place. And when it comes to engagement specifically, its Conversations feature is a game-changer. 

Essentially, Conversations brings all your interactions into a single, streamlined dashboard to supercharge your relationship-building efforts:

  • Never miss a beat: See every comment and message across platforms like Instagram, Threads, Facebook, and more, ensuring no interaction goes unnoticed.
  • Respond efficiently: Say goodbye to endless tab-switching. Reply to comments and DMs from one central location to save time and effort.
  • Prioritize important messages: Postpone keeps track of unread conversations and notifies you of new interactions, so you can prioritize those who are actively engaging with your content.
  • Stay organized: Search past conversations, filter by platform or engagement type, and archive those you no longer need to keep your inbox clutter-free.
  • Focus on meaningful interactions: With less time spent on admin, you can dedicate more energy to crafting thoughtful responses and fostering genuine connections.

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Tip 2: Be a real person, not just a brand

People connect with people, not logos — which is why it’s so important to let your personality as a content creator shine through. Here's how to inject more "you" into your online presence:

  • Share your story: People are naturally curious. Share glimpses of your journey, your inspirations, and the "why" behind your work. This creates a personal connection and helps your audience relate to you on a deeper level.
  • Show your face: Don't hide behind your art, photography, or whatever your niche is. Incorporating photos and videos of yourself into your content helps humanize you as a content creator and build trust.
  • Embrace imperfection: Nobody's perfect. Share your struggles, learning process, and the occasional behind-the-scenes mishap — this vulnerability fosters relatability and builds trust.
  • Use your own voice: While AI assistants are fantastic for creating a first draft of your captions and posts, make sure to edit them into your own unique style.

Tip 3: Show your followers you really see them

By making your followers feel seen, heard, and valued as individuals, you become more than just a content source — but a valued member of a shared community.

Here are some ways to show your followers you care:

  • Remember details: Who are your recurring commenters and what were your past interactions like? "Hey [username], great to see you here again! How was that photography workshop you mentioned?" shows you're genuinely interested in their lives.
  • Avoid generic replies: Tailor your responses to the individual and their comment. Instead of a simple "Thanks!", try "Thanks for sharing your perspective, [username]! I hadn't thought about it that way before."
  • Feature your followers: Spotlight your community by reposting their content, highlighting their achievements, or giving them shout-outs.
  • Create a sense of belonging: Use inclusive language like "we" and "us,” and consider creating a dedicated hashtag for your followers that encourages them to share their own related content and connect with each other.
  • Show appreciation: Regularly express gratitude for your followers' support. A simple "Thank you for being here!" or a heartfelt post acknowledging their impact can go a long way in building loyalty.

Tip 4: Spark meaningful interactions with strategic questions

Want to turn those silent scrollers into active participants? Instead of just broadcasting your content, think of your social media posts as conversation starters. 

Here's how to use questions to boost follower engagement and foster relationships:

  • Offer multiple-choice questions: Sometimes, people need a little nudge to join the conversation. Offer multiple-choice questions to make it super simple to participate. For example, "Which of these designs is your favorite and why?" You can even use their responses as a launching pad for your future content.
  • Encourage deeper conversations: Don't be afraid of thought-provoking questions that spark debate or introspection. Often, hot takes get people fired up — just be ready to handle the heat.
  • Respond to answers thoughtfully: When your social media followers take the time to answer your questions, acknowledge their responses! Reply to comments, engage in discussions, and show that you value their input.

Tip 5: Collaborate with other creators

Two heads are better than one, right? Collaborating with other creators isn't just about boosting your follower count (although it’s a nice perk), it's about injecting fresh inspiration, expanding your reach, and tapping into a whole new world of possibilities.

So, seek out creators who share your passions and vibe with your style. Whether you're both obsessed with photography, fashion, or poetry, finding common ground is the first step to a killer collaboration.

Tip 6: Create a unique follower engagement strategy for every platform

Using the same follower engagement strategy for each platform is a recipe for disaster — after all, each has its own unique vibe, language, and crowd. To truly connect with your audience, you need to speak their language and understand the social cues.

Here's your cheat sheet for building a dedicated following across the social media scene.

Instagram engagement tips

Instagram is the place to be if you're all about visuals and aesthetics. But don't just post and ghost — use those strategies to spark conversations and get to know your social media followers:

  • Use Instagram's interactive features like polls, quizzes, and question stickers in Stories to spark conversations and get to know your followers better.
  • Hop on Instagram Live to answer questions, give sneak peeks of your process, or host casual chats with your social media followers. It’s a great way to foster a sense of intimacy and connection.
  • Share exclusive content, behind-the-scenes moments, or personal updates with a select group of your most engaged followers through Instagram's "Close Friends" feature. This creates a VIP experience and strengthens relationships with your core community.

Facebook engagement tips

Nowadays, Facebook is a diverse crowd with a wide range of ages and interests, so embrace the longer-form content to build a sense of community:

  • Create a Facebook group to foster a dedicated space for your most engaged social media followers to connect with each other and with you.
  • To keep your Facebook group buzzing, introduce a weekly theme for discussions, prompts, or challenges.
  • Reward your Facebook group members with exclusive content, early access to new work, or special discounts.

X (formerly Twitter) engagement tips

Imagine a bustling coffee shop buzzing with quick conversations and real-time updates (plus the occasional bot). That's X for you. Keep these tips in mind:

  • Use polls to gather opinions, spark debates, or get to know your audience better. Respond to the results and engage with those who participated. 
  • Find Communities that align with your niche or interests and jump into the conversations. 

Check out our favorite Twitter scheduling tools for content creators.  

TikTok engagement tips

Use these tips to embrace the fun, playful energy of TikTok and connect with a younger audience: 

  • When your social media followers create content related to your niche, engage with them by stitching or dueting their videos. 
  • Encourage follower engagement by hosting contests or challenges. 

Reddit engagement tips

Every one of Reddit’s online communities has its unique quirks and inside jokes. To build relationships on this platform, you need to become a genuine part of the community:

  • Before jumping into conversations, be a lurker. Each subreddit has its own unique vibe, so pay attention to the types of posts and comments that are well-received (and those that aren't).
  • Don't just spam your own work. Share valuable insights, participate in discussions, and offer helpful advice related to your niche. 
  • Redditors appreciate authenticity and humor. Engage in conversations with a genuine voice, be open to different perspectives, and don't be afraid to crack a joke or two. 

Not getting any upvotes? Here’s how to find the best time to post on Reddit.

Threads, Bluesky, Mastodon engagement tips

We've lumped these three text-based platforms together because, well, they're basically where everyone escaped to when Twitter imploded. Here are some ways to thrive in these brave new worlds: 

  • Weave personal anecdotes and experiences into your posts to make them more relatable and engaging. 
  • Make an effort to respond to every comment you receive. You want to show your social media followers that you value the time they spent engaging with you — plus it’ll help you keep the conversation flowing.

Learn more about how to schedule posts on Bluesky.

Tumblr engagement tips

Tumblr is like that hidden gem of a bookstore where you can stumble upon all sorts of creative treasures and connect with like-minded people. Here, consider: 

  • Engaging with your audience by asking for content recommendations related to your niche. This shows you're interested in their perspectives and encourages them to share their favorite finds.
  • Sharing your personality and sense of humor by creating original GIFs and memes related to your niche. 
  • Actively participating in the Tumblr community by reblogging content that resonates with you and leaving thoughtful comments on other users' posts.

LinkedIn engagement tips

LinkedIn is where you put on your professional hat. Keep these tips in mind:

  • Position yourself as a valuable resource by offering to help others in your field. Answer questions, provide advice, and share your expertise. 
  • Sharing articles, insights, or industry news relevant to your field. This positions you as a thought leader and encourages engagement from other professionals.

YouTube engagement tips

Even though YouTube is a platform for longer-form videos, you can still have a two-way conversation. Here’s how:

  • Use YouTube's community poll feature to ask your audience questions, gather opinions, and get them involved in your content creation process. 
  • Showcasing your appreciation for your viewers by highlighting comments in your videos or giving shout-outs to active community members. 
  • Scheduling regular live Q&A sessions on YouTube to answer your viewers' questions in real-time and foster a sense of connection. 

Pinterest engagement tips

Pinterest may be a giant mood board, but it’s also a great place to connect with others who share your aesthetic sensibilities:

  • Invite your social media followers to collaborate on group boards related to your niche.
  • When people comment on your pins or ask questions, take the time to respond thoughtfully. 
  • Offer a glimpse into your creative process by creating Pinterest boards that showcase your inspiration, your workspace, or your creative journey. 

Ready to Ramp Up Your Follower Engagement?

In a world saturated with content, genuine connection is what sets some social media content creators apart. By shifting your focus from broadcasting to dialogue, you can transform passive followers into loyal fans.

But remember: building relationships takes time and effort. It's about showing up consistently, being genuinely interested in your audience, and fostering a sense of belonging. 

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